Living in the year of our Lord 2022, I have accepted the fact that I live in a dystopian clownworld. After all, when you accept the truth of the matter, the truth will set you free, right? One of these painful truths is that the dating game has completely changed. Now every lad, young and old, is playing the dating app game. Swiping left and swiping right. Rejecting and accepting in some type of twisted game of vanity. Long gone are the days when you met a wholesome girl in church and asked her out on a wholesome date. Now you are forced to meet via Tinder, and you pray to God that she is not an Onlyfans model, feminist, or a feminist onlyfans model who is also a trannie.
But I digress. Call it the lamentations of a millennial living in a late stage capitalist society. What I am sure all my millennial brothers have experienced is “ghosting.” That is, when you meet a girl online, date her in real life, get to know her, maybe connect with her, then all of a sudden she disappears. She doesn’t call you, does not text you, no communication whatsoever. She maybe even disconnects with your profile and vanishes altogether. Nearly every guy on planet Earth who has had the unfortunate experience of using one of these satanic apps has experienced the pain of ghosting by a femoid. And with ghosting comes the pain of rejection and a whole range of negative emotions such as anger, sadness, confusion, depression, and bitterness. It is a recipe for a growing hardness of the heart for the male soul (along with females who experience this). Ghosting has existed since the beginning of social dating sites and apps and will continue to be a part of these sites and apps going forward.
This article will not be about the ethics and morals of ghosting, nor advice on what to do if a femoid or soyboy ghosts you. What I want to do with that hurt and pain you’ve experienced with ghosting, is to take the concept and dive deep into our relationship with God and how we Ghost Him.
How many of us ghost God? How many of us never communicate with Him when we are in the good times? How many of us never communicate with Him when the going gets bad? Or when the state of our lives is lukewarm and nothing is going on? How many of us ignore God altogether or do not even bother with prayer? And I am talking about just those who claim to follow His Son, the Lord Jesus. There is an epidemic of ghosting God and a lack of prayer life among those who believe upon His Son.
I am convinced by scripture that God is the spat upon character in all of scripture. I believe when the prophets of the era of the Israeli Kings saw the constant backsliding into idol worship and other forms of degeneracy by Israel, that they instinctively knew that when the Messiah would come, Israel would kill Him. Isiah wrote about this in the famous prophecy of the suffering servant in Isaiah 53. This is because no one wants to have a real relationship with God. It is written in the Psalms: “God looks down from heaven upon the sons of men to see if any understand, if any seek God. All have turned away, they have together become corrupt; there is no one who does good, not even one. Another verse in Romans proclaims: There is no one who understands, no one who seeks God. All of human history is man pushing away the one true God, ghosting Him and His love, and pursuing other gods of his own human desire.
I know some people with the maturity of twelve year olds hitting puberty will froth out the mouth, spewing how ghosting on a dating app is a uniquely man-and-woman type of thing. In some way, they are right. After all, God is not your boyfriend or girlfriend. He does not want that type of relationship. The type of relationship that God does want, is that of a heavenly Father as revealed by Jesus Christ in the Lord’s Prayer. God is not some magic bearded man in the sky counting beans. He is our Heavenly Father and we are His adopted children, paid for by the blood of the only begotten Son, Jesus Christ (I am talking about believers in Christ).
How many of us, as believers, when we have a problem or situation, do not go to Him first. How many of us, when we have praise, do not go to Him first? How many of us even talk to the Father at all or even meditate on His word? We treat God like a magic jennie, only going to Him when we feel like it, and treating the blood of His Son as a magic trinket, a “get-me-out-of-hell” card to put in our wallet with our gift cards to Starbucks (which has a pegan symbol). No prayer, no time with Him, no time with a Church community. Just get saved, experience the amazing grace of God, then put Him away, ghost Him and go on with your life.
The world does not seek after God at all. Nor does any nation on Earth. The United States can claim it is a “christian” nation until it is blue in the face. But the fact is that we trust more in money in the west than the author of life. We trust more in our vain military might than the true power over kings and governors.
Never is this more evident that a entire nation ghost God then in Isaiah Chapter 30 when Israel who was about to be invaded by the Assyrians, instead of asking God for advice, instead sought help from Egypt, the very nation that God rescued and delivered them from, for help”
The Lord said, “Look at these children. They don’t obey me. They make plans, but they don’t ask me to help them. They make agreements with other nations, but my Spirit does not want those agreements. These people are adding more and more sins to the ones they have already done. They are going down to Egypt for help, but they did not ask me if that was the right thing to do. They hope they will be saved by the Pharaoh. They want Egypt to protect them.
“But I tell you, hiding in Egypt will not help you. Pharaoh will not be able to protect you. Your leaders have gone to Zoan, and your representatives have gone to Hanes. But they will be disappointed. They are depending on a nation that cannot help them. Egypt is useless—it will not help. Egypt will bring nothing but shame and embarrassment.”
Israel went back to Egypt instead of looking towards the Lord first. Israel trusted their own schemes and devices more than the Lord. It was the same thing in ancient days as it is today. America does not consuel with God and instead goes after and takes advice from the modern day gods such as political messiahs, political ideologies, soulless theology, or any other false guru. We trust our bank accounts and drugs to get through our wars more than pray and fast.
Despite our constant ghosting of God, the interesting thing is, He is constantly coming to us. As evident from the beginning, when man sinned against God by eating from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil and men hid from Him, God still was walking and looking for us. I wonder what would have happened if Eve just consulted God before eating from the fruit, what would have happened to humanity. God gives rain to both good and evil, gives blessings to those who ghost Him. He is constantly working for our salvation despite us spitting in His face and ignoring Him. God is constantly looking for the lost as in the parables of the lost sheep, lost coin, and the prodigal son. Despite our rebellion and ghosting, God continues to try and push us towards Him.
Jesus Christ, in most of His spare time, had an active prayer life. He was in constant communication with the Father, and consulted Him and looked upon His Word. Jesus gave miracles to those who asked, even at the risk of being ghosted Himself by an ungrateful humanity. He gave time to people and to God. And ultimately He sacrificed Himself on the cross for our many sins, despite being shunned by the world.
It is amazing to me when reading scripture and doing a deep dive on John’s famous quote that God is love, how profound that really is. God is perfect love. No matter what the situation, when we repent and turn to Him, even if we ghosted Him throughout our entire lives and spat on His goodness, if we repent and turn, He will come running to us and give us new clean garments, and celebrate.
How many of us can say the same thing when we are ghosted by a friend? Maybe a wife or husband? Son or daughter? Mother or Father? Because of our sin nature, we are angry, bitter, resentful, upset, depressed, hateful, and vengeful by the slight of being ghosted, whether real or imaginative. Can anyone live up to the standard of God, who has to endure this very thing constantly, 24/7 and STILL desire that all men repent and believe in His Son? Can any man really forgive someone for ghosting them in the same way God forgives a man for ghosting Him? And what about the people we ghosted in our lives whether real or imaginative? We could be ignoring a friend, a parent, a spouse, a child, for petty reasons. Because of our pride, we prevent reconciliation. Because we fear, we do not forgive. Because of the scars of sin, we refuse to move on or give our pain to the Lord. I am not saying to never ghost someone again or go on an apology spree to those you ghostsed. What I am saying is we need to reflect and have perspective on these 21st century problems and issues with our hearts. We need to reflect on the Lord’s prayer and ask forgiveness for our sins as we forgive those who sinned against us.
We need to be in constant communication with the Father on all matters, lest we be like Israel and end up going back to our own personal Egypt. From pornography, to alchhol and drugs, to gambling, food, sportsball, boob-tube, internet degernacy, and all the pleasures and wonders consumerism brings. Everyone has their own Egypt, and is ready to completely ignore God, His word, and His company.
I think it is time as followers of Jesus Christ to continue meditating on these issues. What we need is to repent and believe the gospel. Because of Jesus Christ, we now have access and reconciliation to the Father. We can pray to Him, in the name of His Son. We now have the right to call Him our Father, and He can call us His sons. Adopted and washed by the blood of Christ. Because of what God did for us by sending His Son to die in our place, let us not neglect to communicate with Him. To spend time with Him, and with His church. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.